I thought this “Fight Like a Girl Club” quote was appropriate, so I shared it on Facebook. Although the actual club’s mission relates to women battling cancer and other life-limiting diseases, the hopes, dreams and fears are universal and applicable to many life circumstances.
I’ve been in contact a lot lately with more women who want to be RVers than at any time before since I’ve been fulltiming. More time for travel sure has become a common dream. And another common theme is the fear that they just can’t do it on their own, no matter how much they want to.
So, with those women, I share this. It is written to each and every one of us who want something so bad we can taste it. We get excited and giddy, then down and doubtful, sometimes all within a 10 minute span of time.
“Take a moment now to appreciate how strong you are.”
Some of the comments I heard back are echoes of other women I’ve heard from through the years, and I’m starting to get duplicate questions by email again, so I thought I’d share here some of the FAQs I’ve had in this regard. I’ve written so much over the years about this, I’ll include the most relevant links, but am glad to answer any other questions that come up for any of you.
The most common first question is how I managed to pull it all off, with the assumption seeming to be that I must not have had the fears they do. Here’s the basic answer to that:
Nothing unusual about having fears – there is a lot of stuff to deal with. Of course I had fears when I started – and I still do sometimes. But the key is they CAN be dealt with! And the secret is not in not having fears – it’s just in not letting them stop you. You can pause and consider them – take appropriate steps to make yourself as prepared and safe as humanly possible – but then you can proceed!
Malia’s Miles is the site I started mainly to share info I’d learned about campgrounds and other RVing matters with other RVers. I couldn’t find the sort of info I wanted when planning a trip, such as “real” campsite pictures, info on the different loops, nearby attractions, etc.
Malia’s Ventures answers the question about how I support myself.
I always tell people to keep the faith (or regain it after faltering), keep researching and start taking baby steps toward their own dream, even if it’s just doing one small thing each day in that direction.
The next most common theme is the fear of being on the road alone, like the kind expressed here:
“For me, it’s that “alone” part that scares me. What if I break down in the middle of nowhere and I’m all alone? Cell phones don’t work everywhere. What if someone tries to break in and I’m all alone. That kind of thing. Am I the only one that has these fears?”
Of course you’re not the only one that has those fears. I’ve had those thoughts and many more at various times. I remember particularly a spot I was going through on my way to Alaska. Appropriately called “Destruction Bay” there was still snow on the ground, the roads were a mess and my motorhome was shaking like crazy. I didn’t know exactly where I was going to stay next, there was no cell phone service and no one else on the road. Believe me, those thoughts (and even being attacked by a bear) crossed my mind.
But like most of our fears even when living in a stable sticks & bricks home, they didn’t happen, and whatever did come up was handled without dire consequences.
Yes, there are drawbacks to traveling alone, but there are benefits as well. For me, I find RVing the best of all worlds. I prefer traveling in my motorhome alone – I like setting my own schedule (or none at all), but being able to change my mind in an instant anytime I want to. But I also have found companionship whenever wanted at campgrounds and RVers are some of the friendliest, most helpful people in the world.
I understand traveling alone is not for everyone. But I just don’t think it needs to be an excuse for giving up without exploring all your options and ways of accomplishing what you ultimately want. Keep researching and talking to other people. You’ll find your own way!
The Fight Like a Girl Club’s Official Club Quote is:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne Williamson
It’s typical of women to downplay their strengths while freely extolling their weaknesses. Let’s try to remember that we women are powerful beings, fully capable of living our lives and following our dreams in whatever way we choose or find ourselves!
Other Malia’s Miles pages about Women RVing:
Comments and questions here would be great! Let’s stick together, ladies!