Show Up – Don’t Give Up

questions signI thought this was too cool not to share.  I was just trying to answer an email from a woman who asked so many questions my head was spinning just reading them.  Basically she wants to become a solo fulltime RVer but she’s scared:

  • of not having enough money,
  • of her adult kids not having a home to return to at their whim,
  • of what her friends and family will say,
  • of being lonely,
  • of mechanical breakdowns,
  • of choosing the wrong RV or tow car,
  • of having regrets regardless of what she does or doesn’t do,
  • and on and on and on.

And how in the world did I manage to do all this!?  What’s my advice and what are my regrets?

As soon as I got through answering her as best I could, I saw this on my Facebook timeline. And I thought, this is about all I needed to say to her.

And this is also what I need to keep hearing myself.

Show up
As long as you just keep showing up – and not giving up – that’s enough.  Sometimes it’s just getting up in the morning and taking one teeny tiny baby step toward a goal or a dream you have.  Sometimes people are going to get in your way, but people will also show up to help you.  Your own mind can drive you crazy, but all you can do is assure yourself that you are enough, even if you don’t have all the answers at your fingertips at all times.

Good stuff, huh?  😉

never give up

In thinking more about this later, I thought about how this also relates to the battles I’ve been waging in regard to my Norcold refrigerator problems.  There are times I’ve thought to just give up that fight after posting the many pages I did about all the recalls, the lawsuit and more, because I just didn’t know what else to do and it was taking up so much time.  Other people who I thought would be interested weren’t following through, so I thought maybe that was enough and I should just move on.

I basically had been told that by one guy who said I should just “shut the hell up” and stop complaining because I was so much better off than him and that I was “living the dream” so stick to posting my fun travel pictures.  I chewed on that for a while and while I agree I have been blessed  and fulltime RVing is the life I have chosen and I have no regrets about that, it’s not all pretty pictures and happy trails all the time. There are breakdowns and mechanical failures just like “real life.”

not give upBut I still say this Norcold deal is different – it can be deadly and not enough people are aware of it. I’ve noticed quite a few people have unsubscribed to my websites as I’ve been posting so much about these issues, but I just don’t care. It’s not all good and it’s not all bad, but it’s my real life and I’m gonna post about whatever in the hell I want to!

hippiesAnd I’m gonna keep showing up and doing what I think is right and what lets me live with myself and keep a clear conscience.

People not agreeing with me are not going to stop me, people who ignore the problem are not going to stop me.  And people telling me to shut up will just make me speak louder.

Hmmm, I guess I still have enough of that 60s rebellious little hippie chick in me!  laugh

  • J.C. Webber III

    You keep on keeping on girl! It’s your post about the Norcold issue that drew me back to your blog (for a while it seemed that it was all reposts of past experiences). Anyway, I got a lot out of your Norcold experience and have recently replaced ours with a Samsung RF18 residential unit. I was going to do it anyway without having come across your post, but the timing was fortuitous and reassuring.

    You go girl. Enjoy your life and keep sharing it with us.

    • Interesting – I hadn’t thought about that as I was migrating from html pages to WordPress that they would show up as reposts from the past, but of course it makes sense now that that would happen. I still have a lot of old pages in html and I want to have everything changed over, but it’s taking more time than I thought. But you may be seeing more of that because when I have new info to add to States I’ve Seen, I recreate the old pages in WordPress at that time. Anyway, thanks for your continued support and encouragement!

  • Colleen

    Omg I love this post today. I am in the early planning of solo RVer. I decided to read most of your previous posts and the resources you have provided before I sorted through the multiple questions to ask you. Needless to say many of the questions I had are answered, and today’s post is it. Just do it and figure it out. Love it!

    • How cool is that! It was really relevant to me, too, in many areas of my life, so I’m thrilled others found it useful, also!

  • jayjay

    Just what I needed to hear! Thank you!

    • And your comment is just the sort of thing I need to hear, too, so thanks! 🙂

  • Nancy Sackett

    I needed this post so much- 6mos after you originally posted! Every one of the “fears” of the lady are mine as I prepare to sell my condo and buy my rv home. I face pressures from my son who doesn’t want me to full-time, but I am convinced and so seriously taking steps to do it. “Just Show Up” essay is perfect and validates my inner faith. I wrote to you a couple days ago and your response was awesomely encouraging. My whole life has been about others – extra bedrooms for family and friends, no convertible because its too small for the grandkids who won’t like it, spending my vacations taking care of grandkids so their parents can go away by themselves. Now that I’m alone I realized I can do what I want, and I want to get out of this house where I wait for people to come. I want to make new friends. Spend time in rainy, foggy, soggy beaches in OR in the winter if I want to!! So please don’t get discouraged for you really helped me. Yesterday I was at an RV show in Phoenix and found a Class C that was perfect, but I told the sales manager about the problems with Norcold. I told him I would not buy it unless his company put something safer in. He pleaded ignorance. If he calls me, I’ll send you what he says about it. Have a great week.

    • As you’re finding out, Nancy, none of us are immune from fears and so many of us share the same ones.

      I can also relate to becoming impatient with living your life for others. Sometimes it’s necessary, but there comes a time when you have to take control of your own life and claim it as your own and do what you want!

      As for Norcold, there’s no way I believe any RV salesman is ignorant about these ongoing problems for years now, and if he is, he’s not a reliable salesman.